When you see a power couple in ministry, like Apostle Tomi and Prophetess Tahmar Arayomi, it’s easy to assume their marriage has always been solid. However, in a recent video on YouTube, “10 Years of Marriage: The Untold Story of How God Saved Our Marriage,” they pull back the curtain and share raw, vulnerable truths about pain, betrayal, healing, and redemption.
If your marriage has ever felt rocky or on the edge, this story will breathe hope into your heart. It was an inspiration to listen to their story. I have included a link to their YouTube video and share the 7 powerful lessons from their testimony to help you and your spouse fight for your marriage.
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7 Powerful Lessons to Help Christian Couples in Troubled Marriages Stay Together
1. God Can Restore What’s Broken—Even in Ministry Marriages
No one is immune to marriage struggles, not even those leading churches and building global ministries. Tomi and Tahmar shared how they faced serious challenges, moments of disconnect, and emotional wounds that nearly tore them apart.
Takeaway: God specializes in restoration. He is a restorer of broken ruins. No matter how broken things feel, He can breathe life into dry places when both hearts are surrendered to Him.
2. Spiritual Covering Matters
One major turning point in Tomi and Tahmar’s story was their relationship with spiritual mentor Dr. Sharon Stone. She became a voice of wisdom and spiritual authority when their own emotions were clouded by pain.
Takeaway: Every couple needs a wise, godly voice to walk with them. Don’t try to fight your marital battles alone. Seek spiritual covering and wise counsel.
3. Forgiveness Is a Journey, Not a One-Time Act
The Arayomis were honest about the depth of offense and pain they had to work through. Forgiveness didn’t happen instantly. It was something they chose over and over again.
Takeaway: Forgiveness is not just a moment—it’s a commitment. Healing is a process that takes time. Grace makes space for growth.
4. Vulnerability Unlocks Intimacy
Tahmar shared how years of unspoken wounds kept her from fully opening up. It wasn’t until she allowed herself to be vulnerable with God and with her husband that deep healing began.
Takeaway: True intimacy isn’t possible without vulnerability. Yes, it feels risky—but it’s where healing begins. Allowing yourself to be transparent with your spouse opens possibilities for connection, restoration, and reconciliation.
5. Obedience Over Emotion
There were moments when neither of them felt like staying. But they chose to obey what God told them, even when their emotions said otherwise.
Takeaway: Your feelings are real but don’t always lead to truth. Evaluating your feelings in light of God’s Word and truth leads to wisdom and discernment. Obedience to God will carry you through seasons your heart can’t yet make sense of.
6. Healing Requires Prayer and Deliverance
Their marital problems weren’t just emotional or relational—it was spiritual. The Arayomis spoke openly about the role of deliverance and breaking generational strongholds in their healing journey.
Takeaway: Don’t ignore the spiritual side of your struggles. Sometimes, you have to go to war in prayer before you see peace in your marriage.
7. Wholeness Begins With You
Each of them had to go through their own individual healing journey. They learned that a healthy marriage starts with two whole people—not two broken halves looking for completion in each other.
Takeaway: You can’t pour from an empty cup. Let God heal you individually so you can love from a place of fullness in Him.
Final Thoughts
Tobi and Tahmar Arayomis’ story about their marriage is raw, real, and redemptive. You, too, can make it if this couple can make it through betrayal, pain, and disconnection, so can you.
Your marriage is not beyond saving.
There is hope, healing, and help when you invite God into the process.
A Special Prayer for You
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. — Ecclesiastes 4:12 (NIV)
Prayer:
Heavenly Father, I come before you today on behalf of every couple walking through a difficult season, those who feel distant, discouraged, or disillusioned in their marriage and in their faith. You are the God who sees, who hears, who heals, and who restores.
Lord, bind their hearts together again with your cords of love that cannot be easily broken. Remind them that they are not fighting each other but fighting for one another and that you are at the center with them. Stir up compassion, soften hardened hearts, and help them to forgive as You have forgiven them.
Where there is silence, bring communication. Where there is hurt, bring healing. Where there is weariness, bring rest. And where faith has grown dim, breathe your fresh wind into their spirits. Rekindle the fire of your love within them both.
Let your Word be their compass. Let your peace guard their minds. And let your grace carry them through every storm. I declare in the name of Jesus that what You have joined together, no weapon formed against it shall prosper. Thank you, Father, for hearing and answering this prayer. I ask with thanksgiving in Jesus’ precious and majestic name. Amen
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