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In Times of Trouble: Practical Ways to Support Adult Children’s Marriage

Have you ever felt helpless watching your adult children struggle in their marriages?

Rachel and her husband are experiencing communication issues, which lead to frequent arguments and misunderstandings. On top of these, they are struggling with financial stress, differing priorities, and a lack of quality time together. These challenges left Rachel feeling frustrated, insecure, and lonely, so she reached out to her mom, Emily, for support and advice.

As mothers, one of our greatest desires is to see our adult children in happy and healthy marriages. However, when our adult children face challenges in their marriages, it can be incredibly painful for us as well. In this blog post, we’ll explore practical and powerful ways of supporting our adult children in difficult marriages, backed by scriptures that offer hope and guidance.

10 Powerful and Practical Ways You Can Support Adult Children in Troubled Marriages

The following practical tips helped Emily support Rachel and her husband in strengthening their bond. They can help you, too, as you support your adult child and their spouse in their marriage.

Prayer Partners: Commit to regular prayer for your adult child and their spouse, specifically for their communication, understanding, and unity. Share specific prayer requests with them to show your support and let them know you are lifting them up in prayer. Pray the Blessings of Restoration for your adult children in troubled marriages. Watch on YouTube

Listening Ear: Be a compassionate listener when they need to talk. Avoid giving unsolicited advice and instead focus on validating their feelings and offering empathy. Let them know you are there for them, no matter what.

Encouraging Words: Send them encouraging notes or texts, reminding them of their strengths as individuals and as a couple. Share positive affirmations or scriptures that speak to the power of love and forgiveness in marriage.

Professional Counseling: Offer to help them research reputable marriage counselors or therapists in their area. You can also offer to go with them to their first session for moral support if they feel apprehensive.

Quality Time: Plan a double date or a fun outing for your adult child and their spouse to enjoy together. Offer to babysit or help with household chores so they can have some uninterrupted time to reconnect and strengthen their bond.

Resource Sharing: Share books, podcasts, or online resources that focus on healthy communication, conflict resolution, and strengthening marriage bonds. You can also recommend marriage retreats or workshops that have helped other couples.

Lead by Example: Demonstrate healthy relationship habits in your own life, such as active listening, compromise, and forgiveness. Your example can inspire your adult child and their spouse to work on their own relationship.

Respect Boundaries: Respect their privacy and avoid prying into their personal lives. Let them know you are there for them if they need you, but also give them space to work through their issues on their own.

Stay Positive: Offer words of hope and encouragement, reminding them that every marriage goes through rough patches, but with faith and commitment, they can overcome any obstacle. Avoid taking sides or making negative or discouraging comments about their marriage.

Seek God’s Wisdom: Encourage your adult child and spouse to seek God’s guidance in their marriage. Pray together as a family and encourage them to lean on their faith during challenging times. Let them know that God is always there to guide them and strengthen their marriage.

I remember my mom’s support when our children were younger, and life was hectic with juggling work and family responsibilities. She stayed with us for a while and helped us with babysitting and household chores. Her presence and support were a life/marriage saver. As a grandma, I offer to do the same for my adult children.

As mothers, we play a crucial role in supporting and encouraging our adult children in their marriages. Let’s continue to pray fervently for them and trust that God is at work in their lives and marriages. Together, let’s lift them up in prayer, knowing that our prayers can make a difference in their marriage.

How do you support your adult children in their marriages?

Share this post with someone who could use encouragement in their marriage or family relationships. Leave a comment below sharing one way you support your loved ones in difficult times. Together, let’s build a community of support and love!

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