It’s time! We are entering another season of togetherness.
Though this year our togetherness may be experienced from behind a computer screen, or 6 feet away, we will come together. During these times, it is not uncommon for challenging discussions to arise along with tempers. So how do you deal with family when you know you are right, and they are wrong (or something like that)?
I will venture to say it’s not worth severing a relationship or hurting feelings to prove that we are right. Let them have the “win.” Truths tend to be revealed eventually anyway. How nice would it be to not have inflicted or receive any emotional wounds over something that in the grand scheme of things didn’t matter once the truth was revealed?
Really, this goes for the family of humans we belong to as well.
Whether we like it or not, this world, this country, our individual towns and cities, are like families. Families are made up of various personalities, some of which can be extremely different from the other members. When we are getting along, when we are united, the feeling is warm, safe, and secure. But when we are at odds, when issues arise, the climate can change quickly and drastically rendering us wounded and withdrawn.
“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another.” Hebrews 10:24-25
What if our focus was encouraging each other?
Think about how you feel when someone says something to build you up. It can change your whole day, right? What if before giving someone a piece of our minds, we consider if it will truly help the situation. If not, maybe we could find enough love in our hearts to remain silent.
Colossians 3:13-15 says, “Get along with each other, and forgive each other. If someone does wrong to you, forgive that person because the Lord forgave you. Do all these things; but most important, love each other. Love is what holds you all together in perfect unity. Let the peace that Christ gives control your thinking, because you were all called together in one body to have peace. Always be thankful.”
Is being right what really matters? Really? We can be the difference in any challenging situation. We can be the peace bringer in any given situation if we are mindful and make a point to be. If we trust His word enough to follow it, I believe we can and will get back to the family God intends for us to be. It’s up to us.
“If possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” -Romans 12:18
This week’s guest post is by Christina Custodio.
Christina Custodio is a wife and mother of three teenagers. She is dedicated to inspiring women to find joy regardless of their circumstances. She is currently working on a book recounting the forty-four days she lived in a hospital following her son’s near-death as well as a book of essays fostering racial unity through conversation.